Retirement gives you the freedom you had hoped for in exchange for the security of knowing your purpose in life.
Retirement gives you the ability to choose your own wardrobe in exchange for the identity of the uniform.
Are you having difficulty these days feeling like you accomplished something even though you have been busy all day? It’s harder to measure success without stats now.
You want to appear on the outside like you are ‘living the dream’ but inside you still hold a grudge against a rank, an organization or a circumstance. When our outsides and insides don’t match, it confuses us and those we love. Therapy is a place where we can work together to line things up.
You thought by now the memories would fade, but the more you try to push them away the stronger they become. You promised yourself someday you’d face your demons. Are you ready to finally put the past where it should be? Let’s roll.
Maybe you spent your career avoiding an office like mine. Well, good news – therapy doesn’t have to last forever!
Did you consider therapy once years ago and decide it wasn’t for you, wouldn’t work or that you were too screwed up to be fixed? Most of my patients are first responders, so I know it takes time to earn credibility with you. My approach is transparent – if you want to know why I am suggesting something or using a certain example in therapy, you can just ask me. No psychobabble here.
Maybe you tried therapy once to ‘check the box’ and never went back. This time is different – because you are different. It’s not too late. You can enjoy more time with your adult children or grandchildren.
Therapy can be an hour to set aside for the demons, the resentments, the ‘woulda, coulda shouldas’ so they don’t take up the rest of your day.
If you call my landline, I will ask a few questions to see how urgently you need an appointment and listen for your strengths as it relates to the current problem. I will NOT ask you to tell me the whole story or all the traumatic details over the phone. This 15-minute call is your chance to ask me about therapy – please mention any objections you’ve had to therapy in the past. Some first responders have my name and number for years before they call me – there is probably a good reason for that. You can tell me, I won’t be offended.
Your outsides and insides can match again. It is possible to enjoy the plans you made, the wishes you had while you were still working. You can’t change the past, but you can be at peace with it.
I look forward to hearing from you. 510-797-4911